I turned 29 again, today. I do it quite a bit.
I am quite fond of my 29th year, and as it’s a short bit ahead of the dreaded 30, I exalt in it on a regular basis. Don’t you?
The fact that I turned 29 again today, and other musing on a Friday, is my title, gives you a hint about the subject.
I’m sharing some deep thoughts and a few questions. I expect you to do the same, in the comments.
Turning 29 Again, Today
Here are some things I’ve learned over the years, after turning 29.
I learned that appearances are deceiving. Sometimes a smile is just a smile, and not a hidden agenda. Lesson: give people the benefit of the doubt.
I learned that inspirational sayings do make a difference. One of my favorite sayings is one my mother shared a good bit with me: Beauty is as beauty does. Lesson: Don’t just look pretty. Do the good deed.
I learned that talk is cheap. I admit I was fooled by more than one man. I no longer beat myself up over those mistakes. Lesson: refer to #2
I learned that age is just a number. Honestly, until I hit 60, I felt as young as a freshmen in college. I never let society push me around and treat me as old, just because I was over 30. It’s harder now, but often I still feel like that young girl. Lesson: Keep your mind on the present, and don’t fret the past.
I learned that kids are the best things in life. As a teenager, I vowed that I would never have children. I did not want all that drool, and diaper changing, and temper tantrums around me! I had enough of that babysitting. And then, I had a little girl who changed my life. And, then, I knew I had to have more children. I have three now, two girls and a boy. I am blessed. Lesson: You can’t decide everything about your life when you’re only 15.
I learned that my best days are in front of me! This was a hard lesson. I allowed the dark days of my childhood to intrude on my life, more than was necessary. When, at last, I discovered I actually had a life, I did my best to put the past to rest and move forward, with joy and happiness. Lesson: You are your own best cheerleader.
I learned that in order to be in business, I had to be in business. Let me explain, being in business is not just announcing that you’ve opened shop. It’s a lot of planning, preparing, doing, and doing again. Lesson: Being in business is a bit of a job. But, a delightful one if you’ve chosen a path that excites you, as I have.
I learned that you can be friends with people you’ve never met. As I embraced blogging and social media, over the years, I met a lot of amazing women and men. I count many of them as my friends, today. We stay in touch and have met in person, here and there. And we continue to support each other every chance we get. Lesson: Friendship is not a thing of afternoons.
I learned that you will miss your parents when they are gone, even as you thought you were ready for that. Maybe my childhood wasn’t all Leave it to Beaver. It was still full of good times. A lot of family time. My parents, though I didn’t think so at the time, did the best they could. They taught me to be better, but still, they did not intentionally bruise us, at least, not all the time. Lesson: Forgive your parents.
I learned that my pets are truly a significant part of my life and that’s okay. In my youth, folks teased me for preferring my dog to my friends or anyone else. “You love your dog best!” they would joke. I would laugh. It was no joke to me. Lesson: It’s good to love your pets. People will often disappoint you, but your dog or cat or whatever, will always be there for you
On musings, beyond the things I’ve learned, and I’ve learned far more than included here, I muse every day on how to reach more women. I work on my Smart Conversations and connecting with Smart Women who are willing to share thoughts and ideas to help other women. Link is to my YouTube channel. I hope you’ll subscribe!
My musings challenge me to look at each day with a critical eye. Am I making the best use of my time?
Am I giving enough of myself?
Am I continuing to learn - both how to be a better me but how to show other women they are phenomenal and amazing and already better than they know?
This week’s Big Ideas News will be out in a few hours. It’s a story of how life once made me cry (oh, yes, life makes me cry all the time, but this story is unique), and I wanted to give up. Not so much on life. Mostly, I wanted to just give up trying to be something. To be me.
But I didn’t give up. Because, crying is okay, giving up is not. I hope you’re a Big Ideas News subscriber. If you’re not, you can become one by going here and downloading “What’s Love Got to Do with It?”
Until next time, I send you laughter and joy and the knowledge that you, too, can turn 29 again, today, if you want to. If you do, let’s have cake together.