This book review of author Paula Munier’s book, A Borrowing of Bones, comes as an offering. To those baby boomer women, and everyone they know. Because fiction is the home of creativity. Fiction is a universe of its own. Fiction is where we learn about ourselves and our reaction to stories, characters, heroes, villains, and all the crowded spaces between.
I’ve always wanted to:
Write a novel
Start a business
Learn to knit/sew/do woodworking
Run a marathon
How To Move Beyond, "I've Always Wanted To..."
It is so easy to get stuck in the “I’ve always wanted to…” cycle. There are so many things you may want to do, but you don’t. Why? There are various reasons: You may not have the time, money or knowledge. Believe me, if you truly want to do something you can find the time, money (or a free or low-cost way to learn) or find someone with whom to have accountability or mentorship to propel your idea forward.
For example, there are times I have said, “I want to learn to play the flute.” I played clarinet in high school — because that was the instrument my mother liked and the one she said she and dad would pay for. She didn’t care for the flute, therefore I didn’t get to learn it. Our daughter, however, was in band and she chose the flute. If I wanted to learn to play it right now, at my age, I am certain she would teach me. I could also find a tutor (I’ll bet a high school music teacher would offer lessons) and get away from the “I’ve always wanted to” and on to “I AM doing it.”
I know from my own life that there are times I say, “I don’t have time to do XYZ.” When I take a cold, hard look at my lifestyle I realize that I plop my butt in front of the television for three hours a night. If I truly wanted to do something, anything, I could give up television, right? Right. I do also know myself well enough to know that I have no creative energy at night. I wouldn’t work on my novel after having spent a day writing. I could, however, take up knitting or work on a cross stitch project. There is truly no excuse to not move a hobby, dream or Big Idea forward.
What can you do today to go from “I’ve always wanted to…” to realize that dream — no matter how big or small? Keep in mind there are no small ideas — if it’s your dream, then it is BIG in your mind and that’s what matters.
Yvonne and I are working on a project that will kick off early December (we hope. All depends on my hand surgery and that’s a topic for another post!). We would LOVE your help, though in helping us hone our focus. Help us move from “I’ve/We’ve always wanted to host a mastermind group for baby boomers who want to take their Big Idea from thought to action and interact with like minded people.”
We’d appreciate your help. It’s easy. It’s quick. AND it puts you in a drawing for one of two Amazon gift cards we are giving away just for helping us out! Click here.
Many of us born between 1945 and 1965, or thereabouts, wonder what’s next, after ‘retirement’.
The people I talk to at networking events, most of whom are women over 50, ask the question, “How do I create a successful business as a baby boomer?” They don’t often ask the “how do I create a successful second act” as a baby boomer.
At Nurturing Big Ideas we’re all about second acts. But, we’ve discovered a disconnect when we use that term. It turns out, not everyone means what we mean.
There are times when I talk a big game -- for example when I announce, "I'm going to cook dinner tonight!" The family knows that is rarely ever going to happen, but I have the idea to do it. I should get some props for that, right?
Other than my dinner "big ideas" I am pretty good at stating, "I have an idea and I want to see what comes of it." Implementation is my main skill and is what I enjoy doing the most. I do have ideas and I have many that have come to fruition, but given a choice, I'd rather take someone else's idea and help them make it a reality.
I have a business colleague who is amazing at BIG ideas. It's usually my job to say, "Great idea! Now here are the steps to make it a reality."
There are many types of people in this big wide world. I prefer to surround myself with those people who believe in the ideas they come up with, build that idea out into a fully realized state then build whatever comes of it.
Since my breast cancer diagnosis I have embraced the Chinese proverb, "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago." Why? Because I can talk about something -- a plan, a dream, a goal -- for a year (as an example). At the end of that year, if I am no closer to bringing it to life then I have wasted a year on the growth of my "tree."
What dream do you want to bring to life? What is your big idea? What happens if two weeks, two months, two years, twenty years from now you still haven't planted your tree? How will you feel to look back and know you could now, right this very minute, be nurturing your tree if only you'd dug that hole and planted that seed twenty years ago.
I don't want to let my dreams go without being planted any longer than they have to. Life is short. Dream it. Build it. Become it.
What dream is rolling around in your head that needs to come forth as a fully realized idea? What are you waiting for?
- Your life to "calm down"
- The kids to be grown?
I urge you to plant your tree today. You will never know how mighty that oak/idea will become over the course of two decades!
If you're struggling to narrow down your idea, let me know in the comments. Let's talk!